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Tobias’ Grateful Heart: A Lesson in Trust and Faith

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 Tobias’ Grateful Heart: A Lesson in Trust and Faith Yesterday, I had a heartfelt conversation with Tobias that left me reflecting deeply. I asked him, “Tobias, do you see me sad at times?” He looked at me with a gentle smile and replied, “No, why are you sad?” I hesitated, then answered, “Because I want you to be free and live the life you dreamed of for yourself.” Tobias, without missing a beat, said, “I am free!” This response caught me off guard. I pressed on, “But with all your disabilities, you’re so restricted. It makes me sad.” Tobias, with his calm and unshakable spirit, simply replied, “I don’t let my disabilities ruin my life!”  His attitude towards life is unlike anything I’ve seen before. His peaceful acceptance reminds me of a monk’s quiet wisdom. He doesn’t dwell on what he has lost; instead, he embraces each day with gratitude and an unbreakable spirit.  When I asked him how he can feel this way, he answered, “Our Father in Heaven loves me, and I love Him very much, too

Creating a Balanced Routine for Brain Injury Recovery: A Day in Tobias’s Life

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  https://www.facebook.com/stories/1300958736696757/UzpfSVNDOjEwNjU5NTg4MzQ4MjY5Mjg=/?view_single=1 Creating a Balanced Routine for Brain Injury Recovery: A Day in Tobias’s Life Every day with Tobias is a journey of growth, adaptation, and perseverance. Since his brain injury, we’ve worked together to establish a routine that balances therapy, cognitive practice, eating independently, and rest, each day bringing its own rhythm of activity and renewal. Today, I’d love to share what a typical day looks like for him, along with some reflections on why this balance is so crucial. I hope this might offer insight and encouragement for others navigating similar paths. Morning: Starting with Care and Focus Our morning starts around 8:00 AM with a calm routine. Breakfast is not just about nourishment but also a grounding moment where we can prepare for the day ahead. It is also a time to learn for Tobias, to repeat movement and for his brain to make the connections of moving all muscles at the

Reflecting a church visit with Tobias

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  Feeling Out of Place, Finding Comfort in God Being at church today was bittersweet. As I sat beside Tobias, I couldn’t help but notice the young, healthy people around us—the kind of vibrant individuals Tobias once was. It’s hard not to feel a sense of loss seeing him there, knowing how different things are now. Life has a way of making us feel out of place sometimes, like we’ve been misplaced in the very places we once belonged. But I’m reminded that God has a plan for each of us, even when we can’t see it. His love is constant, and even when life feels like it’s moving us into unfamiliar spaces, He is there, guiding us. A Moment of Reflection at Church Today, I went with Tobias to church, and as I sat beside him, I couldn’t help but notice the young, vibrant people around us—the same kind of healthy, energetic individuals Tobias used to be. It was hard not to feel a pang of sorrow seeing him in between those who hadn’t faced the challenges he now carries. Yet, amidst the contrasts,

"Embracing Change: Finding Strength and Hope with Tobias

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"Embracing Change: Finding Strength and Hope with Tobias One of those days which is filled with Emotions, planning, or just the busyness. But I’m learning to accept that it’s okay. Sometimes, life doesn't go as planned, and that’s perfectly fine. I recently hired a neighbor, who has been a source of joy and support for many years, to help with Tobias for 9 hours a week. She’s been faithfully writing her own blog every single day for over 12 years! Her consistency is admirable, and I’d love for you to check out her inspiring journey at Unendlich Geliebt. A great example.  As for Tobias, he’s doing well, and I feel blessed to see the progress he’s made. Has he reached all the milestones I initially envisioned? Not exactly, but what matters is that we’re moving forward. He faces physical limitations, and his body doesn’t always cooperate with what his mind desires, but he’s still here with us, full of life and love. That’s something to celebrate every day. His journey: Through th

A Day with Tobias: Strength of Mind Within a Weak Body

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A Day with Tobias: Strength of Mind Within a Weak Body Today, Tobias was quieter than usual. His body seemed weak, and it was hard for me not to notice the subtle signs of his fatigue. But even on days like this, when his physical energy is low, his mind remains sharp and strong, full of determination. That’s one of the things I admire most about him—his unbreakable spirit, even when his body feels like it's working against him. A typical Saturday morning: The morning started like many others. Tobias was lying in bed, and although I could sense his tiredness, I knew movement was essential. His body may not always cooperate with him, but without movement, the stiffness and pain only worsen. So, after some gentle massages, getting him dressed for the day, I helped him to walk from his bed to the lift. It was not as easy, I felt the burn in my arms :). His steps were slow, deliberate—reminding me of a sloth, that slow-moving creature that takes its time with every action. Tobias often

" A Journey of emotional changes while healing a brain"

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Nurturing Love Through Adversity: " A Journey of emotional changes while healing a brain"   DEUTSCHE VERSION UNTEN :) A Heartwarming Beginning Tobi has not cried once since day X. Not that I have seen him, at least. One of his very first sentence was spoken in October 2021. It happened with the strongest emotions of our son, he would only be able to communicate, when guided by emotions. Two full month without a word of Tobias, but then one afternoon. Tyler said "Tobias, I love you" - suddenly, Tobias answered: "I love you, too". Crazy, we could not believe our ears. He was not able to repeat it again for a long time. He must have been trying so hard to talk to us day in day out. From that moment on, I went to him all the time and said: Hey, Tobias, I love you, too!!!! ;)   I got eye movements instead. It made me still happy and grateful to know, Tobias is in there and working hard to communicate. Lots has changed since then. Many miracles have been placed

"Why old friends and family are so important after a brain injury"

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( DEUTSCHE VERSION - WEITER UNTEN) Why Old Friends Are So Important After A Brain Injury?   When someone we care about experiences a life-altering event like a brain injury, it can be challenging to know how to support them. This is especially true when the person in question is a young adult, like my 24-year-old son Tobias who suffered a frontal lobe hemorrhage on the right side. A pretty bad area to have a bleed to be honest.    Yet, in these challenging times, the importance of old friends cannot be overstated, I have noticed. Since making new memories are challenging, the only once who make sense to Tobias are the memories before 08/2021. At times it feels like that he is stuck.    The Power of Familiarity   After a brain injury, the world can seem like a confusing and unfamiliar place for the affected individual. They may struggle with memory loss, cognitive function, or emotional regulation. In such a scenario, the presence of old friends – faces and voices that are familiar – ca