Rethinking life "Life itself isn’t fair; fairness is a human-made idea we project onto the world."


I have been doing a lot of thinking lately about what Tobias says and his attitude toward his and our new life. This blog entry was inspired by the phrase, It's just not fair what happened to Tobias' life. 


🌍 Life Isn’t Fair—But Life Is Still Beautiful

Why does life seem unfair?

We see and hear about war. We live among children, young adults, and elderly people with severe health issues. Many of us struggle with mental illness or physical pain. Life can feel heavy and full of suffering.

And yet — in the middle of all this — the world we live in is beautiful.

Nature teaches us the cycle of life: blooming, slowing down, and dying. It is a quiet teacher, showing us that everything has its season.

The universe gave us Earth — a place to live, learn from, take care of, and live off. In response, we humans created ideas to make sense of it all. One of those ideas is fairness.

What is fairness?

According to the dictionary:

“Fairness is the quality of treating people equally or in a way that is right or reasonable.”

But since the beginning of our species, we’ve treated people differently. That’s why terms like racism and injustice exist.

People often say about Tobias:

“It’s not fair what happened to him.”
And they’re right — from a human perspective, it’s not.

But is it fair that

  • People in Gaza, Israel, or Syria are killed or displaced...

  • People in Ukraine or Russia die in war ...

  • Families in parts of Africa go hungry, are tortured, or are
    killed ...

  • Babies and children suffer?

  • Young fathers and mothers receive a cancer diagnosis?

  • People lose their jobs and slip into poverty?

We could go on and on — and so could you.

Life is life. Fairness is... a strange word.

If you believe that life has a purpose, then ask yourself:
What is that purpose?

Here’s one possibility:
To be a good person. To recognize the true values of life. To discover who we are.

When we truly know ourselves, we see that anyone — regardless of skin color, belief system, or background — could be our friend.
Even our best friend.

In times of war, leaders convince us we have enemies.
But really, the leaders are the ones in conflict.
The people? They just want to live in peace and harmony.

We all want happiness, freedom, and peace. Sadly, that time hasn't fully arrived. If there is a God with a purpose for us, there is also a devil who tries hard to get in the way of that. 

Tobias and the journey of learning

I wish we had taken Tobias to the doctor before he went back to the U.S.
He didn’t recognize the signs — and neither did we.
His headache was light, but it was always there.
And we ignored it.

We had to learn not to drown in self-pity or guilt.
Not to blame God or the universe.
We had to fall — and learn to rise again.
Over and over.

Tobias is still fighting, and he’s grateful for his Father in Heaven.
His words are simple and strong:

“He has a plan for me.”


Final Thoughts: A Personal Invitation

Fairness is a concept we created — it’s not built into the fabric of life.
But peace, gratitude, love, and purpose? Those are real.

Let’s find peace, even in struggle.
Let’s support others. First take care of yourself so that you can serve others. 
Let’s use our strength and live with meaning.

The purpose of life is not to fight.
Not to hate.
Not to be brainwashed.

Tobias teaches me every day what joy looks like — and that there’s more to life than meets the eye.


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